Our counseling/consulting firm specializes in training, treatment programs that brings solutions
and therapeutic
tools for professionals to assist those who struggle with their spiritual, psychological, emotional,
physical and sexual health. Our goal is to get you on the road to recovery, not just planning. Our work is grounded
in addressing real issues to produce solution focused outcomes and to improve your quality of life for a healthy lifestyle
and wholeness.
The Xposed concept is committed to promoting wholeness, emotional, psychological, spiritual and sexual
health by expanding awareness and knowledge about sexual addiciton and other trauma induced intimacy disorders. It is typical
to grasp that Xposer brings healing and only then can one start the journey to total recovery community-wide, state-wide and
nation-wide.
-Dr, Tina Parkman LPC, CAAC
Services
We provide holistic, psycho-educational intervention for:
• Survivors of
sexual, emotional and physical abuse
• Marriages, Couples Therapy and Families
- Sex offenders treatment
- Sexual addiction treatment
- Co-dependency
and toxic/unhealthy relationships
• Counselors
• Social Workers
• Psychologists
•
Clergy
• Pastors
• Youth Pastors
- E-counseling
- Virtual Seminars
- Modules and didactics
online
and other human service professionals.
Dr. Tina
new release XPOSED US ACTS is coming soon.
Sexual
addicitve lifestyles are re-inactive, repairative behaviors that take place when a person tries to find completeness in relationships
due to the damage that has occured as a result of childhood emotional trauma or adult failed relationships through trauma
bonding.
Sex Addiction Criterias:
- Repeated failure to
resist sexual impulse
- A history of failed relationships
- Emotional
intimacy-disconnected
- Sexual relatioship-disrespectful, selfish, demanding
- Supports-the relationship is everything
- Relief from depression
- Relief from anxiety
- Something to do
- Long engaging in
behaviors to greater extent than originally intended
- Ritual or pre-occupation with preparation
for sex
- Continuation despite of harmful consequences
- Attachment
Disorder
- Breaking the Generational Cycle of Inordinate and un-natural affections
- Incest and dysfuntional Families
- Increase in dependency, frequency intensity
or at risk to achieve desired affect/ diminish effect with same behavior
- ignore sexual boundaries
or limit important activities to be sexual
- Sexual behavior interferes with daily living or obligations
- Pro-longed time obtaining being or recovering from sex
- Frustration
irribility or restlessness, if unable to engage in sexual behavior
- Inability to resist sexual
impulsive behavior sexual exploits and multiple partners
Implications
for Treatment
- Sex addiction therapy
- Exposure
therapy
- CBT(cognitive retructuring)
- Multiple intervention strategies
- Psycho-educational and integrative multi-dimensional treatment approaches
- Individual
group and couples to therapy
Programs Offered - Addictions impact on partner selection
- Abuse,
misuse and co-dependancy
- Addiction in the family
- Addicitions and interpersonal relationships
- Multiple
and Other Addicitions with Couples
- Couples Recovery
- Co-Addicted behavior
- Healthy Intimacy
- Toxic Relationships
- Trauma Ties-A Restored Man
- (ACTs) Trauma,Abuse & Neglect
I can't
be addicted because....
- I haven't lost my family or my job
You
have missed one important word that need to be added to this rationalization....YET.
Early definition of addiction:
Sexual appetite is abnormally increased
to such an extent as it permeates all his thoughts adn feelings allowing no other aims in life.Tumultuosly and in a rut-like
fashion demanding gratification without granting the possibilty of moral and righteous counter presentations and resolving
itself into an impulsive, insatiable , succession of sexual enjoyment... This pathological sexuality is a dreadful scourge
for its victim for he is constant danger of violating the laws of the state, and of morality, of losing his morality , his
freedom adn even his life. -Krafft Ebbhing 1886
Latest Definition:
Objectively
it is a condition inwhich some form of sexual behavior is employed in a pattern that is characterized by, a recurrent failure
to control the behavior and a continuation of the behavior significant harmful conseqeunce. Subjectively sexual addiction
is an enduring inordinately strong tendency to feel driven to use sexual behavior as a means of relieving painful affects
(or emotional states) and regulating one's sense of self.-Goodman 1999
Data on Addiction
- An estimated 16 million American both men and women are fighting spiritually and psychologically are bound to every
sexual contact
- A growing number of medical experts are saying that compulsive sexual behavior
is a very real disorder
- 6.8% of the general population meets this criteria, %75 male and %25
female
- %13 of sex addicts are sex offenders
- Computer sex
crimesare on the rise, the internet makes it easy to acces child pornography and cha with young children
Internet Sex Addicts- Approxiamately 40 million people
are sexually involved with the intimate internet
- Statistics show that %25 of all internet
search engine requests are related to pornography
- Internet sex addicts eventually progress from
cyber sex to real time sex affairs
- The #1 search on the internet is sex
- 72 million internet users visit pornographic websites every year
- 12 million dollars
in annual revenue is made from the internet
- 89% of pornography is created in the US
- 260 new sites go online daily
- 589 seconds are spent on pornography
- An estimated 22.8 million are male;71%; while 9.4 million are female; 29%
- An estimated
1/3rd of all divorces may have their roots in internet porn or online affairs
"If there is dissatisfaction
in the existing relationship, the Internet is an easy way for people to scratch the itch"- J. Lindsey Short,
President of American Academy of Matrimony Lawyers
Cycle of Abuse
- In a national random survey 27%
of women and 60% of men disclosed that they had been sexually abused as children.
- The
national women of study, found that %80 of women did not report rapes to police.
- One
out of three girls, and one out six boys are sexually abused before the age of 18
- Violent behavior
protects the vulnerable
- Unfamiliarality with positive emotional repsonses leads to unhealthy
relationship choices, verbally, emotionally and sexually abusive
- The perception that
abuser is in control often causes victims to remain
- Relief over survival is often expressed
as gratitude towards the perpertrator
- Toxic relationships normally choose who will victimize
them
- The drug culture can expose and create victims of trauma
Are you an Addictive or Secret Lover?
- Trying to get non-sexual needs met sexually
- Sexually
abused is a common pre-cursor to later addiction
- Trying to complete self, a sense of wholeness within real imagined
relationships, with multiple lovers
- Trying to fulfill sexual desires and emotional needs through sexual appetite.
- Individuals
who have not acted out sexually, but sought completion through unhealthy emotional relationships
- Those too frightened
to act out upon their desire, so they resort to fantasy
